Book on dating in your 30s

Figure out which "undesirable" traits you can live with in the long run, because nobody's perfect — not even you.5. Yep, another Facebook engagement on your newsfeed makes a grand total of 24 friends (or frenemies) this week. Sure, you're entitled to a few moments of self-pity, but after a week of downing every Krispy Kreme you see, you've got to let go and move forward. In your 20s, the idealist in you believed that money doesn't matter.A diamond might be forever, but a moment on the lips and a lifetime on the hips is just as harrowing.6. Love is all you need, you (and John Lennon) thought.

Go against the grain; it might end up feeling right.2.

Maybe you're happy with your pattern — you're a blissful serial monogamist or a sometime-dater — but for the rest of you who've had it UP TO HERE ... When it comes to love, your gut (and by gut, we mean vagina) can sometimes lead you astray.

Try out the shy guy whose sense of humor you have to draw out.

Then you stopped living with roommates, had to pay the rent — and maybe you realized then and there that finding a partner with a big, fat paycheck might be the answer after all. But after the vacations have been had, the gifts have been exchanged and the nest has been feathered, what you're left with — besides a bunch of stuff — is a real, live human being with no monetary value. We've all seen it: it's about pm on a Tuesday night and there's a cute woman crying her eyes out at the bar to an innocent bystander.

Healthy finances may make things comfortable, but they won't sustain you through personality conflicts, health scares, family issues and insecurities. It's your first time staying over his place, he's adorable and you're already mentally designing your wedding dress and naming your first born. Or maybe it's an adorable guy shelling peanuts vehemently at the end of an empty bar, going on and on while the bartender tries to find an out. Your heart is big and it's full and there are many, many stories tucked inside.