“I stopped moving my lips and turned cold.” Whether Ansari didn’t notice Grace’s reticence or knowingly ignored it is impossible for her to say.
“I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn’t interested.
“Most of my discomfort was expressed in me pulling away and mumbling.
I know that my hand stopped moving at some points,” she said.
We are not using her real name to protect her identity because she is not a public figure.
“I stood up, and I’m like tipsy at this point and feeling really confident.
When Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom within minutes of their first kiss, Grace voiced her hesitation explicitly. Everything was pretty much touched and done within ten minutes of hooking up, except for actual sex.” She says Ansari began making a move on her that he repeated during their encounter.
“I said something like, ‘Whoa, let’s relax for a sec, let’s chill.’” She says he then resumed kissing her, briefly performed oral sex on her, and asked her to do the same thing to him. “The move he kept doing was taking his two fingers in a V-shape and putting them in my mouth, in my throat to wet his fingers, because the moment he’d stick his fingers in my throat he’d go straight for my vagina and try to finger me.” Grace called the move “the claw.” Ansari also physically pulled her hand towards his penis multiple times throughout the night, from the time he first kissed her on the countertop onward.
When they walked back in, she complimented his marble countertops.
According to Grace, Ansari turned the compliment into an invitation.