Of course, I took the fact that my boyfriend didn’t want to kiss me as a huge blow to my ego.
I would even dress provocatively with the hope it would get me attention.
It’s weird because while I know plenty of people with AS (my boyfriend, one of my ex-boyfriends, several of my closest friends, and even my younger brother) and have even asked myself if I might possibly have AS, I can’t even provide a simple definition. I’m not going to pretend I know all there is to be known about AS.
Many experts who think they know everything about AS clearly do not.
There is a universality to the suffering captured in “Aspie Seeks Love,” a new documentary by Julie Sokolow that premiered at Cinequest over the weekend.
As it chronicles its protagonist’s dogged attempts to enter a successful romantic relationship, the film reveals an agenda much deeper than discussing Asperger’s syndrome or the broader autistic spectrum.
Maybe the so-called “professionals” will eat their dissertations after that.Sometimes, people with AS just don’t like to be touched in ways that neurotypicals (NT for short…I despise this term as none of us are really typical, even people without AS) find enjoyable. If I want physical attention, hugs are nice, and we do get into tickle fights, which is always fun.More importantly, when my boyfriend tells me I’m pretty, I sincerely believe him. He leads a very interesting social life down on campus, and while he often has trouble understanding social nuances, he seems to take it in stride. Or they may exhibit extreme frustration with lacking in social graces, such as not being able to understand innuendos, body language, or facial cues. Ladies, how many of you are guilty of expecting your boyfriend/husband/etc to read your mind?Oh, it got me attention all right, but from the wrong people. He told me, “If you want to dress like that because it makes you feel good, go ahead.But you don’t have to do it to get my attention.” Later that week, I asked why he wouldn’t kiss me. He finds making out kind of gross, which may tie in to issues with sensory-motor perception.