If you often imagine a happy (happy is the key word here) future without your partner, that's a major sign that things aren't right.This is a part of the emotional detachment process, during which you may try to convince yourself that you don't care anymore so that the eventual separation feels less painful, says relationship therapist Jamie Turndorf, Ph.
"When that's going out the window, it's a really big red flag." Jane Greer, relationship therapist and author of of the firsts, Fleming says that it may be that "you prefer to get your needs mets outside the relationship." To that end, Greer points out that not having any meaningful conversations aside from "rudimentary conversations about chores and things that need to get done" is a warning sign that your relationship is not in a good place.
"In order to face her relationship unhappiness, a woman needs to stop distracting herself by putting other people's needs ahead of her own," says Gadoua.
"Doing this can be a way of avoiding her painful truth." So if you find yourself getting unnecessarily involved in a fight between your mother and sister, or you're always rushing around trying to make other people's lives easier, it might be time to take a hard look at your own relationship.
"The truth doesn't go away simply because we don't want it to be there; that voice stays in the background and weighs on you," says Gadoua.
"Getting quiet within is key to being able to hear instincts.