Talking about certain aspects of dating, including sex, doesn’t mean you approve of them.Your teen needs to know exactly how you feel and what you expect.Be direct, so trouble with focus doesn’t keep your teen from taking in what you’re saying.
Avoiding the topic can keep your teen from having the information and guidance needed to make good choices.
Teens also learn how to be both assertive and compromising, how to be giving to another and how to expect the same in return. Show them how you compromise, stick up for yourself, give and expect respect and argue but love your spouse. Tell girls that they do not need to have sex to keep a guy. Many kids are having these forms of sex because they tell themselves it’s not really sex. Then tell them about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases.
All of this is a sort of practice session in order to find “Mr.” or “Miss Right.” Unfortunately, too often teens start dating with no preparatory talks from their parents and then they can get into trouble. You hope they will wait to have sex, but if they don’t, it’s best that they protect themselves.
For instance, kids who don’t want to be alone with their date can ask a friend to stay close by or help come up with an excuse to leave.
Kids with ADHD often do best when they have structure and boundaries. That’s why it’s important to set rules about dating—and stick with them.